Here’s how I would best describe it: there are some relationships you find and build; but there are others you find already built, like all you have to do is step inside them and live.
I once read a quote by Rumi:
The minute I heard my first love story,
I started looking for you, not knowing
how blind that was.
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere,
they’re in each other all along.
The people you meet and feel like you’ve known your whole life.
When the movie Blue Crush first came out, I was obsessed. I thought the movie was about this epic group of friends who worked hard together to achieve something great. When I watched it again after I grew up more, I realized it was more or less about a girl and a surf competition. But I only really remembered one part, the part where Kate Bosworth gets picked up in the morning to go surfing. Yeah, that’s the scene that left an impression, that made me crave a sense of community, of like-mindedness, of these are my people, we do things together.
I once watched a video of an old couple who had been married since they were teenagers. The one piece of advice the wife gave: don’t be afraid to be the one who loves more.
Relationships are so scary. Well, rejection is scary. Facing pain is hard.
How easy is it to move on without trying to understand what’s going on in your heart and without confronting the person about why you’re hurt? But how rewarding is it when you do!
Knowing that these types of relationships are worth fighting for, worth protecting, is a good lesson to learn. Well, I don’t think you have to learn it, you sort of feel like you must.
Recently, I went on a trip with my friends to Finland.
This wasn’t any old ordinary trip, this was a trip with three of my favorite people, people who I feel like I’ve always known. It was magical, it was my Blue Crush. The people you’re with and feel like no time passes yet you’ve been together forever. The ones you know how to make laugh. Laughing is the key.
It’s weird, even being back home from Finland, my heart still feels there, it feels in the happiness of it. It’s hard to explain. But I guess I’m fine with being speechless.
I just think when you find relationships like that, they are worth flighting for and putting your heart on the line, of making heart-felt videos for, of writing sentimental blog posts about, and plain old, communicating directly about how much you love them.
Tell the people you love that you love them and don’t be so afraid to show affection and appreciation to people you care about <3
– listening to “across the room” by ODESZA